Oh, Man!! You got that one right, Brian...NEVER piss off Tal!!!...Sure glad I'm not a twinkie!
oooohhh! Impressive cache of tools, Tal! Too cool! ...I have a good combination of intuition and analytical thinking, too.
Now, I never sought revenge on the OW...but it sure was (is?) tempting. For one thing...as far as I know, she FINALLY kept her word and has stayed out of our M.
Can't say I haven't THOUGHT of nasty things to send her...like loving e-mails from CJ, photos of US together. CJ and I basically turned up the heat on her by saying we'd have no problem contacting HER H (just so he'd be "informed", like she did for me...kind soul )...as he didn't know the A was still on, and they have kids of custody age.
And still...just 3 seconds ago, as I type, the phone rings. Long distance number I don't recognize...first thought? OW!! ...I picked up before it went to the machine...just a woman from CJ's on-line course. (sounded old and British...I always ask who's calling now).
Wow!! I love your bag of tricks and I'll be sure to not get you pissed off--that is for sure! VERY easy you say regarding birthdays----is that an offer? I don't know why this has got me so interested in finding out--maybe so I can send her a bday card--yeah that's it-- Let me know if that was an offer to help or just a comment-thanks! Pam
We can talk about it if you want. Post me your email. Please think about what you'd do with the info, because at this time, you are still in trying to recover H mode and you don't want anything to backfire on you.
H confronted gossip guy (very nicely) and found out that I was right--XOW and her little friend at work are behind the gossip. After our MC session last night, we went out for dinner & did a little planning.
When I got off work tonight, I went to his work and had him paged. (Keep in mind here that some of the patients at this place have Huntingtons and all kinds of other problems that can make it seem like a psych ward--people walking around cussing & drooling).
H took a LONG time to answer the page and I waited there by the receptionist at the front desk. Soon enough, XOW and her little buddy come around the corner. Instead of staring her down or ignoring her like I normally do, I said "Hey YOU!"
Butt-Ugly stopped right in front of me and looked like a deer caught in some headlights. I cussed her like a drunk sailor. I threatend her in some very subtle ways that I knew SHE would understand by using some choice references to her pet bird.
XOW's little buddy runs off for help. Receptionist is standing there with her mouth open in shock. H shows up at the front desk. At this point I am calling XOW a skank whore that should run and hide her slimy self under the rock she crawled out from under.
Little buddy has come running back with the Administrator behind her.
I slump my sholders, look at H and say, "uh-oh....it's happening again!"
He looks at Receptionist and Administrator and (with a straight face) says, "my wife has Tourettes Syndrome. This kind of thing happens when she forgets to take her meds and is under stress". He then glares at XOW.
I have a few ticks and twitched right about then for effect and notice Receptionist and Administrator now looking at me with pity and compassion.
H says to me, "honey, did you forget to take your meds this morning?"
I nod meekly and twich a few more times.
H says, "do you have them in the car?"
I nod meekly again.
He tells Administrator that he'll take me outside and make sure I take my pills. She tells him that's fine and calls me "poor thing".
XOW is still standing there in shock, and quite a few of thier coworkers have gathered around. "Butt-Ugly Skank B***TC", I call say as H was leading me outside.
About 4 or 5 of his coworkers who understood what had just taken place came running out behind us. I kept a straight face, (except for the occassional twitch) until we got to my car. We were all laughing so hard by then. OMG, I was laughing so hard I thought I'd need one of those adult diaper things.
H and & do a high-5 and he says, "oh baby, I LOVE it when you talk dirty!"...which sets us all off laughing again.
DANG that felt good! I wonder if Butt-Ugly is still frozen in place? OMG, my stomach hurts from laughing so hard! I'm so proud of H for pulling that off!
Hi Talitsa-
my email is phdred@sbcglobal.net would love to chat w/ you one on one regarding this--don't think I would really do anything with the info--but it's just something that he won't tell me and I don't see the big deal behind it...so it's more a curiosity thing at this point.
Thanks!
Pam
OMG!!! You are one to have in my corner!! I too can think up all sorts of things, but don't have the gutts to follow through on it!!! I didn't see the turrett's coming either--to be a fly on that wall!!! Good for you Tal--and great that H was behind (no by your side) for this too!!!! Teamwork in bringing down OW YOU GOIN' DOWN B#TCH!!! he he he he LOL
It does sound like a movie!!! A close friend of mine has started viewing these boards to "catch up" on my sitch--and she says she feels like she's in a movie/soap opera etc etc reading some of our stories!!!
Huge progress--so glad that this false alarm was indeed just that and sounds like you and H are so much on the right path now--and doing it together!!! Keep up the good work, and so very happy to see some good news around here!!! My past 2 days have been awful--but you can check out my thread for the 411 on all that!!! Night!!
WAAAAO...!! For the first time i stop on this thread and find a magnific and terific movie...!!... I promise i will never chase your H, je je.... andrea
Naw...B-U knows I don't have Tourettes. She may be abit slow, but the whole thing must have sunk in by now.
My whole point in this exercise was to be able to openly confront OW in H's workplace, let B-U know that I know a great deal about her life and have to-date excersized supreme self-control in NOT doing anything to hurt her, to have her see that H and I are a team, and to get away with it all! Hopefully she got the message loud and clear that she should have been VERY afraid all of this time and didn't have the sense to know it.
Not to mention the pure joy of being able to call her a B-U skank to her face!!! That was truly cathartic to vent a bit of my rage directly at her. I have no interest in obsessing about her or messing with her from here on out UNLESS she doesn't take the hint and continues messing with me and mine, you know?
Guess I do have quite an imagination, enit. I know Sherman Alexie--maybe he could mentor me to do a movie story. The performance thing is just an evolution of something H and I have done from the beginning of our R. Before the R, when I was a single mom and my boys would try to act up in public, I embarrased the B-Jez out of them by acting....um....like I was developmentaly retarded. When H and I were first dating, we went out in public with one of his boys and two of mine. The boys started acting up, thinking I'd never do my "routine" in front of this guy I was seeing. Instead, H started acting developmentally retarded and embarrased them terribly. I laughed my butt off and knew I'd met my soul mate. After that, H and I would do it as a team. Publically embarrasing the boys has been one of our hobbies ever since. The Tourettes thing was a natural evolution of something we'd been doing for years.
Anyway...
gathering information and having wicked fantasies about what you would like to do to an OP is probably a healthy way to deal with the rage and feeling of helplessness in the aftermath of a betrayal on the magnitude most of us have dealt with here, but acting out on those things is another matter.
I'm glad I didn't act out on B-U while in the frame of mind that could have caused a "crime of passion". Revenge is best served cold and with a good sense of humor.
P.S. Do you think this little stunt of ours will successfully blow her little rumor-mill out of the water? I'm thinking that the rumors about H and B-U will never be retold without our little performance trumping the whole story. If the Administrator ever figures out that the whole thing was contrived, she'll dig into it and find out about the whole mess. If she does find out about it...I personally think she'll have no sympathy for XOW and her role in all of this.
P.S.S. All XOW had to do was back off after H dropped her like a dead fish and told her he was determined to reconcile with me and his family. But nooooooo...she just wanted to keep poking an angry rattlesnake with a stick.....very foolish.
Hey Pam, I don't want to take her down...just get my message across.
It has been an unfortunate, but necessary diversion from what I need to be doing--DBing, healing the wounds in my R and in my family, and planning a wedding!
I need to get back to catching up on what everyone is up to around here. I'll stop by your thread and catch up on your sitch.
Impressive cache of tools, Tal! Too cool! 
...I have a good combination of intuition and analytical thinking, too.
...I picked up before it went to the machine...just a woman from CJ's on-line course. (sounded old and British...I always ask who's calling now).
Let me know if that was an offer to help or just a comment-thanks!