And more contact on IM, which makes every day this week so far, sometimes twice per day, more than in a long time, even though according to H we talk less now and this is really good and makes him feel less pressured...I swear that he just makes things up as he goes along.
Again I have to just say here, I don't get it...
He tells me he is not going out over the weekend, will be at home doing lots of studying, what am I going to do. By the way before this S, he said he wanted to "lead separate lives and not ask each other what the other is doing."
According to his statements on the joint session we only talk about business these days. I have my new technique in place now. I answer him with one word statements unless I absolutely have no choice. H: "Well I am not going out this weekend", me :"cool".
The only thing I expounded on was what I was doing this weekend, said I don't have a lot of money, probably just going out for someone's 30th birthday to have a drink. I wanted to hammer home the reality that we don't have a lot of money since he is not living in reality.
H: "Well exercise is free at least." Me: "true".
No talking for about 10 minutes, then he comes back with some joking around. I don't think I'll answer for awhile.
I am not taking the bait. If he feels like being married to me is like jail, I don't feel the need to carry on a conversation.
Doesn't mean that I don't hope he'll say something substantial and amazing in our conversation, but I am SO over making a big effort. I am going to leave my desk for awhile now.
Confused and perplexed...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
