I am so sorry to here this news. It is the hardest thing in the world to accept when you love him and want the M to work. I struggeled with the seperation, it saddened me to no end. I think I cried for about 3 days straight before and after the day we signed our papers for seperation.
We are all here for you. Take time to grieve but dont give up until you know you cant take any more.
My H acted the same way yours did for about two months before he finally left me. He said all the same things. Mine had an emotional Affair with a stripper during that time.
But now a year and a half later he wants to work on us. He came back to our M and told me he thought he gave up on us too easily and apologized profusely for the hurt he caused me.
I know my H and I still have a ways to go, but I am living proof that it isnt over until you say it is. Sometimes, you cant fight it and a D will happen. But most the time, our actions as DBers will be noticed by them and intrigue them to maybe try again.
Keep your head up and if you want to have another chance at your M, then keep DBing. TIPPER
