We're never getting back together-How do you cope?

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Maybe you can tell her the $$$ is a gift and you aren't asking for repayment, or better yet, that it is more for the support of the kids needs than hers ? I don't know for sure.

One of the books I am reading says that the first thing to go out of a relationship that is suffering lack of intimacy is the element of fun. And so one of the first steps is to introduce fun back into R.

Is there anything fun that you and W used to do together that maybe you could invite her to do again with you ?

My W likes to play cards. We also got new bicycles and need to make a 'play date' to ride them somewhere.

Of course, W always likes to go out to eat.

And, if she wants to do anything fun, do not linger too long after the activity. Apparantly I did on the weekend before last and made her feel 'smothered'.

Regarding the letter, the line you picked out about 'The real miracle is...' is a thinly veiled criticism which I let slip through. I need to rethink that one because I am still angry about it, but I don't know if it serves my purpose in this letter. Thanks.