He said it just happened, no big deal.

[Hope4us]

Lyn, I'm in the same boat as you. My W said "I didn't go looking for this, it just happened". And now that her affair is over as best I can tell, she doesn't want to deal with any of it and it's been left to me to fix what I did wrong to make her cheat.

Be careful. If I'd have known 6 months ago that she would hang on to this "it's your fault I cheated" attitude, I would have left then.

Are we in Piecing? I don't honestly know. We seem to be getting along pretty decent, but when there's a little hiccup where I need something from her we get set back. And I don't know how much longer I can keep this up with her attitude.

I'm only writing this to let you know when the wayward spouse supposedly comes back to the marriage after an affair but is unwilling to do what's necessary for BOTH of you to heal, it's very, very difficult. Heck, it's difficult if both of you WANT to do the work necessary. But if one party isn't joining in it's almost impossible.

Take care of yourself.