That's good you feel more detached. This is going to be really hard and I know the unhappiness you feel.
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If I don't handle the next month perfectly, and moving back in perfectly, he could do something really major to damage the relationship beyond repair.
Don't put so much pressure on yourself. This really much more about him and that is something you can't control.
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He sort of acts like he wishes there were hope, but that he is not willing to work on it
This is classic WAS, and some marriages on here are busted so keep hope.
You can't predict what is going to happen so I'd really just sit back for a little while and carry on as you are. Work on making you happy for a little while and then you will be better placed to handle his stuff. I know this seems impossible but it really does help. It is really hard but it does help.
The WAS's often aren't living in reality in terms of practicality - you saw the battles with finances I had with my h and getting him to take some responsibility even when the answer was SOOOOOOO simple.
