He said it just happened, no big deal.

[Lyn]

"People who say their affairs just happened aren't necessarily intentionally trying to cover their asses or justify their behavior; they often truly believe what they're saying. They simply lack insight or awareness of the ways in which their actions, however subtle, have created their current predicaments. But in the same way that affairs don't just happen, neither does healing from betrayal. Unless those who have strayed look inward and take personal responsible for the paths their lives have taken, they will not be able to get back on track when they've gotten derailed. In my view, being unconscious just doesn't cut it."

I'm starting a new post as I'm feel I'm trying to start a new life. I've been peeking around on many other posts and loving them! I need to get clear on my own and hopefully all the good people here will help me.

At this moment we are playing the let's get back together game. But I feel he totally fits Michelle's above analysis. He feels totally justisfied in cheating and doesn't feel he needs to do any work. Just me! So I'm feeling totally out of sorts here. I try to do the DB'ing (apparently working, he's back) but I feel so much pain and anger. How can he LOOK IN THE MIRROR! Tell me this? Someone please?

Well it's late here and I should try to sleep.

Lyn