That's not a bad image to have, but tomorrow might shed light on how you got to be that way.
We all hope that our children can learn at least some of life's hardest lessons through us, rather than having to go through it themselves. I will pray that this is the case for her.
I was driving to the cottage and didn't read about this. I am SOOOOOO sorry. To involve your daughter is just the suckiest! That is awful.
You have done so well to keep her R with her Dad good. I've tried to do the same with Ash but honestly, there were many times I said something - something I wish I hadn't. But not you!
Your D probably knows the truth without being told. And she may find out more in court than you wish for her to. But she is an adult now and the chips will fall where they may.
I just wanted to let you know that I care. And I will be thinking about you. And sending "support" vibes.
I decided the Christie Brinkley courtroom look was the way to go. After all, she got what she wanted......Pencil skirt, white shirt tucked in, belt, dainty necklace and earrings with 2 in heels. However, I don't have a pencil skirt so I'll be wearing camel color slacks.
Thanks, Barb. My only issue is that "she feels sorry for him." She said to me, "Mom, he's 50 yrs old, has never worked for anyone else, doesn't have a degree, where is he supposed to get a job?"
Now, remember, this is the guy that I supprted the first 10 yrs of our M because he got fired from every job he had. He did not like having a boss. Soooooooo, I helped him finance his own business which did very well for about 15 yrs or so. However, he hired peeps to run it for him while he had A's and golfed. Then he couldn't understand why it went downhill and why he's now broke? Of course, Kelsey doesn't know any of this......and I won't tell her......which SUCKS!!! But, I do resent her feeling sorry for him while I'm paying her bills every month. He did this to himself.
Off for my beauty sleep. If I'm going to dress like Christy Brinkley, I'm gonna need A LOT of sleep to keep up the facade!!!!
FOr the most part - I think she does know. But its like Ash. When Chuck was down in the dumps she said "sounds like he and maggot are rocky". When I said that was not a bad thing and she totally agreed because she can't stant maggot being with him. She then said "but he could get too depressed. He could be suicidal. And for that reason - I don't want them to break up - I don't need a depressed dad".
So, they DO care deeply about their dads.
She knows who did it all for her. Ash does too. Someday they'll have daughters of their own. And maybe they WILL appreciate us!
FOr the most part - I think she does know. But its like Ash. When Chuck was down in the dumps she said "sounds like he and maggot are rocky". When I said that was not a bad thing and she totally agreed because she can't stant maggot being with him. She then said "but he could get too depressed. He could be suicidal. And for that reason - I don't want them to break up - I don't need a depressed dad".
So, they DO care deeply about their dads.
She knows who did it all for her. Ash does too. Someday they'll have daughters of their own. And maybe they WILL appreciate us!
Barb
Thing is, because he lives closer, she sees him a lot more now than she sees me. She still calls me numerous times a day and I'm always the one she calls when she has her melt downs but they hang out and have fun. I wanna do that rather than the comforting, drying the tears, offering advice. We used to hang out and almost wet ourselves we'd laugh so hard. Not lately and I miss it. And, I've offered weekend getaways but she either has to work or is hanging out with worthless BF. Another icky story!!!
Again, same story here. She has to make time for dad cuz he comes to take her out. I suggest going out or her coming to the cottage - nope - no time for that. But not for one minute would she EVER call him if she had a problem. No - that's me. But in truth - I think they realize their tie to dad is tenuous whereas they are secure for life with us.
