Puppy.. my spinning plate crashed

[Starshyne]

My heart breaks for you. I can feel a lot of myself in your story. Keep taking those baby steps. One moment at a time. I know how difficult the waffling is. Heck my now ex is STILL waffling between me and the OW and we are offically divorced now. He still doesn't understand that he made his choice. When you are ready, you need to tell your H that you love him and you love your family, but you think more highly of yourself than to allow him to have an affair while you sit back and accept it.

I also want you to seriously think about no longer ML to your husband until he ends his relationship with the OW. Who knows what diseases he could possibally be bringing into your marriage bed? I hate to say that, but that is became a stark realitiy to me the past few weeks. Besides....what message does that send him? That he can ML to two women and they both are fine with it? Something for you to think about.

Sara