Ugh. I'm so sorry you're going thru this. Once again, though, I'm seeing that you and h. are using the tough stuff to really work through some issues together...as crappy as it all must feel, from the outside looking in, it's wonderful to see.
Quoting talitsa: We did have a long talk about the whole trust issue. He knows that it's going to probably take a long time. I told him that he can't just do thing on HIS terms all of the time, that he needs to listen to what I say I need for trust to be rebuilt. I said if he can't live his life like an open book to me and have a policy of being completely honest about anything I should know about, then I think he needs to be single and not try to be with me.
I told him that I feel that I have a RIGHT to know if he's lying and/or cheating and I will excersize all options to find out the truth if my intuition starts throwing red flags all over the place.
Sage
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
