Jill-- I was so sorry to hear about your daughter....it is a scary thing to go through, but she has your example and will be ok. You know that. Is it fair that she has to go through it? Of course not. But maybe this is a side of him that she has to see, now that she is old enough to process it all.
You can love someone and still not agree with their actions.
I think the xanax idea is a sound one. I'll be taking them next Fri for BIL's wedding. Also, see if you can get there early and catch up with your A, get a chance to see the venue, etc. Remember to BREATHE...
Happy, I so disappointed that he did this. I worked so hard not to have her involved. She knows nothing about the money situation so I don't know why he's doing this. And, if I were a vindictive person, I could cause so much trouble for him and she'd hate him. But, I want her to love him and I've told him that all along. I promised him that I wouldn't lay the whole story on her as to why we split and I never have or would. She and I have always been so close that it worried me sick that if something were to happen to me, she'd basically have no one. I know her Dad loves her and I wanted her to feel safe/close with him if I wasn't around.
Yes, it does feel like a ploy to make me panic, but, I took 2 xanax and I'm feelin' pretty darned good, actually.
I already told Kelsey that I thought it would be fine for her to leave after she testifies. The best scenario would be for them to talk to her first without her Dad or I in the room and then let her go. I know she's going to leave there crying.....
UGH!!! He's such a worm!!!
You're such a good mom. Protecting her heart as much as you can...letting her love him still because it's good for HER to have good feelings.
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
You are a good Mom and I'm sure it will all work out. If this is upsetting to K it won't be any fault of yours. The nice thing for her is that she knows you will always be there for her!!
Jilly Fig has a point, if she wasnt sup. does she really have to go? Well one thing , she is YOUR D, so she is a strong, terrific girl, and she'll do fine. Ex should be ashamed of himself!!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
Jilly Fig has a point, if she wasnt sup. does she really have to go? Well one thing , she is YOUR D, so she is a strong, terrific girl, and she'll do fine. Ex should be ashamed of himself!!
Haven't talked to her since this afternoon so don't know if she got it or not.
Is it fair that she has to go through it? Of course not. But maybe this is a side of him that she has to see, now that she is old enough to process it all.
Could be but it will upset her a lot.
She has this idea that I'm the tough, strong, gitterdun one and feels sorry for him...........Aaaaargh!!!
We make deals with them for the kids - to keep them out of it - to make peace - and it seems as if when we make a deal to keep the peace these freakin' worms keep trying to take advantage of us. It makes no sense to me because I don't at all understand how a parent could do that.
It's about him and the deal the two of you made, but he's bringing your daughter into it?
If I have any advice whatsoever to anyone getting divorced, it's get it all done now. Do not put anything off to keep peace and get things done quietly. Because these guys aren't going through a MLC, they're just plain selfish SOB's. And they aren't going to change. If they have no empathy for their kids, they have none for anyone. If they don't care about their kids, they don't care about anyone. And it's apparently not a temporary thing.
Queenie my X agreed to pay for the boys' education and then "changed his mind".
Anyway, please let us know how this goes tomorrow. Please post so others in the process of D'ing can see that when you make a deal with a pig, the pig eats the deal.
Yes, all of you who haven't finalized yet....make sure "everything" is spelled out exactly....And.don't be nice like I was and get half up front and the other half payable over 5 yrs just so the worm didn't have to refinance all his buildings. OH, and that was NOT alimony, BTW, for those that think women don't deserve it!!!
And.......I just totaled up all the figures that he claims to have paid and what I had paid and I've paid almost 14K more than him towards our D since our D. Take that, sucker!!!
