It Always Comes Back to Balance....

[Briget]

AG,

Going out on a date is kind of like trying on a pair of jeans.Your not gonna keep the first pair you try on.You have to find the right fit. And guess what!!! Men know that.Their doing the same thing. You go into a date with no expectations.

Later Friends
Briget

[fig]

AG

i don't know you and don't really have the tact to say this without sounding beyatchy...

that being said...

why do you assume that all men want more than one date with you?
if you are really as relationship challenged as you say...
they might never call you!!!!

stop worrying about how you will turn them down and start worrying about how you will have fun and how you can have fun with them

i don't think the goal of a date shold be love and lifelong commitment

it is to meet people and have fun

have fun!!!!

[pat44]

Hi Briget and fig:

I posted a post and deleted it. People usually accuse me of lying here when I post about my experiences. So I decided there is no point.

Briget you are right - the risk is implied.

The rest I will post about as it unfolds... Although the last time I did that after my last vacation last year - I was accused of making up stories. So I will post selectively.

And I may have to take it off the BB.

take care,
AG

[pat44]

Hi Friends:

I like to post honestly. And the one area where I no longer feel comfortable posting honestly is about the actual interactions I have with the men I meet in an R context. I use to at one time roughly a year ago.

That is why I haven't posted about a single interaction with the men during my vacation - other than those that led to R-related conversations. And I have brushed off questions from most friends off the BB - probably something I need to not do - that whole trust thing... I have posted about some of the interactions that are "believable."

Truth be told - well - when I think about my experiences - they sound unbelievable to me - like I must have imagined them myself. They are very flattering - but at the same time scare me.

I ramble on about all sorts of stuff and really it doesn't bother me when they are challenged. This one is a real issue that has stumped me - that is why I keep avoiding facing it over and over again. I probably need to call my C to talk about those things I can't post about here. Besides if you don't post all of the fact - well really it is tough for anyone to provide real solutions...

take care,
AG

[fig]

Not accusing you of lying...
it just seems like you think that everyone wants to enter into a long term relationship

and

i don't mean to be crass but maybe they just want to get laid???


i have had guys want to move faster than me too

i just say
nope
see ya

i don't understand the difficulty there

[pat44]

Hi fig:

I didn't mean you. Your questions were legitimate.

My decision has nothing to do with you.

I just don't feel comfortable answering why I act and feel the way I do here right now.

It is possible you would believe my answer... Right now this issue is just too raw for me to handle having the veracity of my answer challenged. And I have dropped it over and over again. I need to resolve it this time.

I am probably going to start a new thread tomorrow and just drop The Block discussion here.

take care,
AG