Welcome to my boat. Sorry to see you here. It's not a fun place.
One thing that just popped into my head was a convo I had with my hubby when we were at the beach this past weekend. He said something annoying, something he knew I would flip over, but instead I just was positive and gave an upbeat answer and as soon as I said it I could tell something changed in the way he was acting and he got kinda pissy. I was like WTF? I did the right thing and he still gets mad. So I asked him outright and said "why does that make you mad" and he said "I just wasn't expecting that answer. I figured you would freak out" which is his term for me getting angry and lashing out. So I said "so you get upset when I don't react the way you thought I would?" and he said "kinda"
Holy cow I was/am confused about that. First why say something specifically to piss me off and then when it doesn't you pout like a little boy whose toy has been taken away! You just can't win with these WAH!
I just thought of that when I was reading your posts because it seems like maybe your H is doing the same thing. Although I cannot tell you why they do it!
Anyways I hope you feel better soon. I hope we both do.
