Quoting talitsa:THOUGHTS ON BUTT-UGLY OW's: I've heard from a lot of men about how the visual part is much more of an aspect of their sexual response. Given that, I seriously wonder how my H could have warped his vision enough to have sex with such a truly homely woman...much less have had an EA with her!!!
I try and try to figure out what the heck H could have possibly been attracted to in OW!!! She's got fuzzy carrot red hair, deathly pale white/blue skin and it looks like someone took all of her facial features and smashed them all together in the middle of her face! I can't see even one aspect of her that he would be physically attracted to! I wonder if he had to dress her up in lingerie, high-heels and put a bag over her head in order to have the "two attempts and one partial-success" that he had in trying to have sex with her.
I know I'm being a bit catty, but if you gave that comedian Carrot Top a sex-change and badly botched plastic surgery.....
Personality-wise, she's also a lot of the things that my H doesn't have much respect for.
What you guys have said here about butt-ugly OWs make a lot of sense, but I still struggle with "what the HECK was he THINKING!!!" and "how COULD he have???" and feeling embarrased for him!
her feeding his ego so much must have made him deaf and blind.
I'm so confused about how THAT could have been my competition.
Well I gotta say that I just think to be an OW you have to be butt ugly!!!!! I have struggled with the same sh*t about my H's OW--she is very ugly!!! Anyone who has seen a picture of her agrees and wonders what H is thinking--especially since everything else is a gamble until you get to know the person! Heck I have beauty and brains and braun!! I'm in the best shape of my life!!! I think that sometimes they pick the ugly ones because they already feel low self esteem and they need to pick out someone that is "less than" themselves to feel "better than"...at least I think that is the case in my sitch--H always felt that I thought I was better than him--I never did feel that way and never voiced such a thing--but he's carried that with him for years and I think it is his projection of how he felt....I certainly have much more going for me than the OW and I know that H isn't looking for a future with her--just a roll in the hay--which she it more than willing to supply...obviously she has low self esteem and lack of self respect otherwise she's be seeking a man that could be there for her 100%--instead she is settling--why? well she is butt ugly and they other guys aren't exactly banging down her door (wish they would)...she is not a "hottie"--but I am. :-) Been told that by my OG--who is still just a friend. Ok-now I'm rambling--but yes, doesn't matter how they look, it is the feeding of the ego that matters and the undying attention/affection that these little women give our H's ---H's do lose their senses (all of them) when in the midst of all this!!! If you think of OW as your competition, take a little happiness in knowing that you are the winner!!!
