kissak - i have read some pretty good books as well as been in counseling since december of BOMB year!! tell you what..this is what i have learned
do what works for YOU. remember that us being healthy is #1 for our kids well being!
it is hard how "easy" their life seems...no if and or buts about it..it sucks..it isn't fair and all that jazz. but what can we do about it?? ABSOLUTELY nothing!! my happiness has been so dog gone dependent on xh -- if he is miserable i have been HAPPY - yep and if he is happy the opposite....it is a struggle..but trying not to do that anymore.
in regards to your wonderful D I have learned from much counsel/books/GOD and friends...you always are suppsoe to have a plan b. They are going to do what they are going to do... i am sorry... just watch out for YOU and your little one.
M-20 years/BOMB 12/24/06 Moved out 3/12/07 D final 7/30/2008 finding myself again