Sure wish my A would call me.......... I have to leave the house at about 8 to be there on time tomorrow. Meantime, I'm getting some paperwork around and then I'll decide whether to be classy or destitute.........
No, the L hasn't called. Kelsey lives close by. I'm thinking she won't know who to talk to or sit with and maybe it's best that way. I'm going to be talking to her later tonight. If she's supoenaed by his A does she have to sit with them???
She does not have to sit with them because they subpoena'd her. Wouldn't that make her their adversary? And a phone call does not make a subpoena.
But this seems to be a last minute ploy by your X to drop things. Only a jerk would upset his child like this (I thought of a few different words but didn't thing the mods would let them fly).
If she goes, it's on him Queenie. Sometimes we can't protect them any longer. Sometimes it allows them to see things the way they really are. Maybe in the morning you could ask your A if your daughter can stay in the lobby until testify time and then let her leave.
Happy, I so disappointed that he did this. I worked so hard not to have her involved. She knows nothing about the money situation so I don't know why he's doing this. And, if I were a vindictive person, I could cause so much trouble for him and she'd hate him. But, I want her to love him and I've told him that all along. I promised him that I wouldn't lay the whole story on her as to why we split and I never have or would. She and I have always been so close that it worried me sick that if something were to happen to me, she'd basically have no one. I know her Dad loves her and I wanted her to feel safe/close with him if I wasn't around.
Yes, it does feel like a ploy to make me panic, but, I took 2 xanax and I'm feelin' pretty darned good, actually.
I already told Kelsey that I thought it would be fine for her to leave after she testifies. The best scenario would be for them to talk to her first without her Dad or I in the room and then let her go. I know she's going to leave there crying.....
We make deals with them for the kids - to keep them out of it - to make peace - and it seems as if when we make a deal to keep the peace these freakin' worms keep trying to take advantage of us. It makes no sense to me because I don't at all understand how a parent could do that.
It's about him and the deal the two of you made, but he's bringing your daughter into it?
If I have any advice whatsoever to anyone getting divorced, it's get it all done now. Do not put anything off to keep peace and get things done quietly. Because these guys aren't going through a MLC, they're just plain selfish SOB's. And they aren't going to change. If they have no empathy for their kids, they have none for anyone. If they don't care about their kids, they don't care about anyone. And it's apparently not a temporary thing.
Queenie my X agreed to pay for the boys' education and then "changed his mind".
Anyway, please let us know how this goes tomorrow. Please post so others in the process of D'ing can see that when you make a deal with a pig, the pig eats the deal.
If I have any advice whatsoever to anyone getting divorced, it's get it all done now. Do not put anything off to keep peace and get things done quietly. Because these guys aren't going through a MLC, they're just plain selfish SOB's. And they aren't going to change. If they have no empathy for their kids, they have none for anyone. If they don't care about their kids, they don't care about anyone. And it's apparently not a temporary thing.
Man isn't that the truth! It's onething to screw around when it comes to us but to drag their kids into is a whole other ballgame, and says it all loud and clear!
