Hi everyone. I am finally moved in and it has been busy!!!!!!!!! I am doing well and we have been getting along great.And even having some sex too!!! I will post more when I can. Take care and have a great Thursday! Prayers and blessings, ~Ali
Yay... Ali's back! I figured you were busy with the move. I'm so glad to hear that you are doing well. I posted a link to some pictures of myself and family over on my old All I Can Do thread, page 16, if you are interested. You were gone the day I added that.
Thanks Cinco.... You have a lovely Family! Love the bald head, I told my hubby he should do that in years to come. He is starting to lose hair. I told him I love it and he rolls his eyes. I am so Happy you shared that with all of us. I will post more when I get time. I am finding the more I let my guard down and just be me the more hubby does too! Also I am doing better at just forgiving him for being a scoundrel in the past. Thanks in part to you reminding me he is human. Have a lovely day and don't give up! Alicia
Here's the story of how I made the decision to cut my hair short and just let go of the combed back hair on top.
I had been losing my hair over the years starting when I was 20. I had settled into the comb back style a la Jack Nickelson. You've got to do something with that hair on top as it thins, so slick back it was.
When my D was little we were at the swimming pool one day. As I was watching D swimming around in the pool, I noticed one of the other dads swimming around in there too. He had the dreaded comb over style of attempting to hide his baldness. The reason I noticed him is because every time he he would come out of the water he would have this awful lock of hair hanging down to his shoulder. That wasn't even the worst of it. To reposition his comb-over he would give his head a quick snap and like a whip his hair would slap back on the top of his head (shlaap!). I was really funny to watch.
That was the day I went home and cut my hair short. I didn't want to be a spectacle at the swimming pool or in high wind. That was about 12 years ago and it looks a feels much better this way. My wife likes it better this way too.
My H first began to loose his hair when he was 18. As a consequence he was half bald when we got married (he was only 23). Now that it is fashionable to have a completely bald head (as opposed to signifying that you are thug) he shaves his head. I suspect he shaves it even more frequently now than he used to because I have noticed the odd grey stubble over the last 3 years and his vanity will not allow that. Look at it from his point of view he has a much younger OW (16 yrs different) and if she started to notice he was going grey she might suddenly remember that he is only 7 years younger than her dad!
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Look at it from his point of view he has a much younger OW (16 yrs different) and if she started to notice he was going grey she might suddenly remember that he is only 7 years younger than her dad!
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Well we are getting along ok. But hubby is drinking heavy again. And going out alot again.. he is out right now as we speak...?!~ Said the following things to me.
I dont do anything for him? When am I going to start losing weight? He wants to love and feel loved. You dont care about me. You dont get it yet. I feel so lonely. I have talked to you may times and you are never going to get it and show me you love me. Dont get mad and feel sorry for you , feel sorry for me , I am trying and you dont see that. I need you to show me more.........
ME~? I feel sad and depressed. I feel like I am never going to be who he thinks I am supposed to be.
I'm thinking of you and hoping you will somehow get a sign or hear the right song or something in your heart will open up and give you some answers about what to do and how to feel better...
Misery loves company, right? So right now my fiance and I are in a bad fight...this is actually frequent for us. I'm very sad tonight, and I just wanted to share because I know I sound like I have it perfect. I don't, and tonight I'm sad about my man's behavior right along with you....
Poor us!
(that is supposed to be funny)
I wish I could go out salsa dancing with you and let our cares sweat off our bodies on the dance floor!
I am so sorry to hear that he is still struggling to feel something. When I had lost my emotional connection with my wife it felt horrible and so empty. I wanted to do anything that would make me feel something...anything again.
The thing that confuses me with him though is that you are trying the best that you can to connect with him and it is still not enough?
Ali you continue to be in my prayers. I keep praying that your H will finally see that you are giving so much to him and that he will feel the love you have for him.
I posted a link to some pictures of myself and family over on my old All I Can Do thread, page 16, if you are interested. You were gone the day I added that.