NikB #29 (keepin' up the piecing!)

[NikB]

Thanks everyone for visiting!

Michelle
I might just do that (with the pics).

(((Michelle)))

I agree.. it's been pretty amazing. Now to stop the turning and go straight, before it turns too far again..haha.

ST
hmmmm... normally these girls will say something if you look extra good so I don't THINK that was it but thanks for the thought. I know, all the looks kinda freaked me out. I mean it's nice (and great PMA boost!) but it was pretty weird. You need to get a convertible.. you get a lot more looks that way.

I know, the huge party thing completely freaked me out the first time. At least now, I have practice! Thank you for the reminder not to stress. I am very focused on this, believe me! I'm not sure if you remember this but one of my VERY early 180s (as in.. a little over 2 months post bomb and 2.5 weeks before he moved out), we had a New Year's Eve party. My 180 was to HAVE FUN!! Previous parties I was so stressed out making everything "perfect" I didn't even enjoy them until they were 3/4 of the way over with, and sometimes I wouldn't even see H the entire night! Not that New Year's party.. and, never again, for that matter. Plus, I have Michelle who will tattle on me if I do!

Part of why we have so many people is H invites EVERYONE. All his coworkers, all the neighbors, heck last time he invited these people we ran into at a dance club and had a fun night with. Oh.. and one of the grocery store clerks we see fairly often.. and if I remember right he also invited one a couple of the waitresses at a restaurant we go to a lot. And he tells everyone "bring friends!" So, it adds up! At the first one of these I swear I knew H, my Mom, about 6 friends, and 4 neighbors. The other 60+ people? No clue! I didn't care for that too much so I asked H to stick with people we know (or for coworkers people we actually talk to!) and their friends.. haha. Oh.. and in case it wasn't obvious... there are.. ahem... a few of his coworkers who are very specifically NOT invited, so he's having to be more selective and actually hand out invites to particular people rather than a free-for-all.

Anyway.. long story short.. it'll be fun!! I will make sure of it.

Phoenix
Hi! Great to hear from you. Yes, we sure do post to a lot of the same people. Great minds, eh?

Do you have a current thread somewhere, other than that "questioning yourself" one in Newcomers? I'd like to get an idea of your sitch, too. Did you used to post as Just_Me? If so I'm somewhat familiar with your sitch (or at least, your sitch quite some time ago)..

If you want the Reader's Digest version of my sitch it's on the first page of this thread. But yes, things are going really well and getting better - sometimes baby steps, sometimes pretty big ones. Sure there are improvements to be made but isn't that pretty much always the case in an R/M? We're back to "normal" R/M improvements instead of "bomb-worthy" I guess you could say.

We're committed and working on making those improvements TOGETHER and that's the important thing. I am finally just now starting to feel more relaxed and less anxious, which has made a tremendous difference too. I will be thrilled to get to that point that I think either Jen_Jam or SDFoundGirl described as "no longer scanning the skies for bombs" - I can feel it getting closer but I know I'm not quite there, yet. I guess you could say I'm looking way off in the distance instead of right overhead, now.

Thanks for the congrats!