LOLOL...yeah you even have a touch of quirky Indian sense of humor too!
Yesterday, I had a C session. My C scolded me a bit because I told her that H and I hadn't talked much about exactly when he was moving back home and haven't at all talked about any fears or anxieties either one of us was having. I had told her that I was AFRAID to bring up the subject as I was worried that he would feel preassured, tell me he was having second thoughts, etc.
So...anyhoo...when he called last night, I if there was a reason why we hadn't talked about it as it IS a big deal and supposably will be taking place within a few weeks.
H said he was just about ready now...had been boxing things up and trying to figure out where he would put his new house plants in our house.
So then I asked him if he had any fears/anxiety about coming home. That opened up a big can of worms--as he told me about what had been going on in his therapy and how what he is finding out about himself makes him afraid that he will screw up our R!!!!
Alot of what he told me were things that I sort of knew and was bothered/hurt by, but I now have a clearer picture of what is going on with him.
I think we are both worried that there is a disorder (??) or quirk in his makeup that is very incompatible with having a long-term R.
I really would like to talk to you about it and get your perspective, as well as anyone else's thoughts, but I don't have time to write about it now.
P.S. Aside note....he says his therapist is a lot like me in personality and her techniques to get him to be open and honest are things that I do without realizing it. Says we're the only ones who have ever been able to put him on the spot and get unvarnished answers out of him. He called it "sneaky" at first, but was looking for a better word that didn't have such negative connotations. HMMMMMM.
