I remember Michelle's words in Divorce Busting when she wrote that, if all else fails and all the efforts to save your marriage do not bear fruit, bear in mind that the fact you have tried so very, very hard speaks volumes about what kind of a person YOU are.
Despite my heartache I can see the truth in those words. I'm sure, if you let yourself, you could see that too.
Try to be strong and listen to Puppy Dog Tails and I will try to do exactly the same!! We're both in the same place. I know that. I empathise totally with you.
He IS a loser and here is why:
Your love is selfless, genuine and strong. It is the only love worth having... and he's playing with it. He is, catergorically, and without any question, a complete and total fool.
WE WHO LOVE NEED TO STOP BEING BULLIED!
Puppy: "I'll stand up next to a mountain... knock it down with the edge of my hand"