I know that in many cases, no R talks and no pursuing are the best stratagy. For my sitch, the 180 that worked was more R talks, more pursuing and lots of reassurances to H.
Along that line, I called and left a voice mail for H this morning.
I said it really scared me to think how close to losing each other. I said that through all of this, whenever one of us was ready to give up or bolt, the other would pull it back together. I told him that I was so glad for that, because giving up on our R would have been a sad and foolish mistake.
H called me from work tonight and said, "I got your message. Did you really mean what you said?"
I told him that I definatly did, and that I hoped he could see how hard I was trying to do a better job of trying to express the feelings I have for him, even though it feels clumsy.
He didn't speak for a long time. Then he said, "thank you" and I could tell he was tearing up.
I know we have a lot of work yet to do, but I think we've made a lot of progress and I AM glad that we didn't give up--even though that would have seemed like the easiest thing to do.
