on the money issue, Ya, that is wrong. he's feeling the pain of having to deal with his consequences, so he's just using his defensive and I'm sure OW is telling him that you are going to take whatever you can from him. and B, that is EXACTLY what you need to do for him, write it all down. my H thought I was doing nothing at home, so I made a 3 page list of ever second of my day and showed it to him. I mean, everything.
on the ADs. your H really didn't do anything until you backfired at him. now, I'm going to copy the message you wrote in a sec so you can see. IMHO, your H could very well be making sure your fit to watch K. on the other hand, of course it's possible that he could be being vengeful and plotting against you, but I really don't think that's the real reason. Now, I did not hear the tone of his voice when he was saying this, and that can also make a diff. But him asking you about the zoloft and why you didn't tell him, seems like a question worth asking. it's not really his business, but I understand that he would like to know these things. But it wasn't until you brought up that he needs medication that he went on the defensive and using the drugs against you.
of course that's not right, but I believe he only said this out of reaction to what you said.
perhaps I missed something, but I'll check now...
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
