Hi Kerry, I haven't had time to read about your adventure, but, I'm finding there are plenty of guys in the same boat here. I do have an IC and I'm planning on getting together with him soon to talk about the path forward. I've kept things close to my chest for the most part.
Would I have filed already if I didn't have kids? I doubt that things would be much different. I probably would have tried to join her in her adventures. If nothing changed, then, I was still so co-dependent that I would have continued to hang on and try and change things around. It was only 6 weeks ago that I finally started to stand on my own with an identity that doesn't depend on her. Now, I have self-respect. Then, I didn't. So, I still probably wouldn't have filed, but, I think that I would have less conflict about filing for divorce.
