Things are going fairly smooth. I am somewhat avoiding my H right now because he seems to be going through a phase where he's rather confused (about himself, he says, not about our R).
I'm trying to detach from all of his stuff, and just stay calm. I'm acting as if he will come out of his weirdness anyday now and I will have my H back, somewhat the way he used to be before he weirded-out.
When I do talk to him and he starts up some negative, insecure obsessive thing, I just simply say:
"Don't worry, we're going to be ok", instead of getting all anxious and caught up into his stuff.
It seems so backward somehow, that he went squirly, cheated on me, left home, and now I have to do all of this reassurance and comforting instead of the other way around. It seems to be pretty common though, as I've seen people describe the same kind of thing over and over on these boards.
