A little update: I've been feeling very anxious about our money issues, since nothing really seems to be changing in that area. I was thinking about it the other day and I realized that talking about it with h gets us nowhere. He gets quiet and/or defensive and I feel like I can't get my point across. So, I decided to do something different. I sat down right there and then and wrote a 3 page letter to him about finances and his debts, letting him know how I feel and what I need, in as positive and supporting a tone as I could write. I gave it to him that night. He didn't say anything about it after that or the next day, so I asked him if he read it and he did. We got into a small uncomfortable discussion then, but I felt better because I got my feelings down in writing and I didn't feel the need to reiterate my points. Oh well, we'll see how it goes.
We have a lot to work on. I wish this was easier.
We're going away this weekend and I'm going to try to get back to my positive thinking. I really want this to be a relaxing, stress-free couple of days for us. Wish me luck!
