T2L, thank you sooo much. Unfortunately H called about 11:30 (prior to reading your post), I answered. He says I want to take you to lunch -- you know for your birthday. I was outside taking my 5 minute therapy walk. I think/know my oldest D28 must have called him to "remind him". I said no thank you, I brought your lunch. So he is saying come on, eat your lunch tomorrow, we will go out to Macaroni Grill. As a good DBer I should have said yes, and gone out and laughed and had a good time and be sparkling, but my own alien pod came out and said, no it is not a good day for me, and I start to cry. He said ok, but I wish you would come, then weepy, sniffling, totally unattractive me says, I am sad, I was thinking of the birtday you threw me and how sad I am today. What happened. All I want for my birthday is for my family to be restored. He says I will come over and see you later (oh great - I HATE working at the same place). I said all I want is to be back. then I said goodbye. You are so right, have to make the best of it. It is so hard not having anyone here and them being 1900 miles away. Why did we come here 2 years ago and have him wanting to leave now? If he was soooo unhappy for years -- why didn't he tell me then instead of moving us here with no-one? I don't get it. I am so isolated here. Miss my friends, family, my life. And I can't go back till at least D15 gets out of high school. I saw this quote and it really speaks to our Hs.. "you shouldn't punish others for your own choices"
Me 53 H 50 D16, D29 M 22 years bomb 7/08 INH - alien pod replaces H 8/08 - OW (direct report), I work there also bomb II - H moves 10/1 expose ow 10/22 D to be final 9-09
