My only hope is he will miss the life WE created.... I just dont see that happening. At some point he is going to make a decision and stick to it..quit waffling back and forth.
Sandy, I just don't see that AT ALL. NOTHING about his past waffling behavior indicates to me that he will do anything BUT continue to waver back and forth, to the degree that each woman allows him to.
You've got something going for you here, and that is that you've been thru this three times with him before. I'm not trying to be a smartass, but you have a TON of real-life data at your disposal to use, even if most of it "what DOESN'T work," kwim?
Look back on those times that you drew him back in, and at what you might have done wrong that enabled him to stray again. (by "wrong," I do NOT mean morally -- this is HIS problem, not yours ... I just mean what might you do differently in terms of holding him accountable, backing off, not going "melty-woman" or "needy/grabby" or "pursuing" on him, etc.).
Does that make sense?
Did you post here, or keep a journal the other times he was unfaithful?
