Looking for some more patience!

[WCW]

I read an online article a while ago about women who keep the matital home. Unfortunately it stated they keep it out of an emotional need and most often end up losing it because of financial problems. I did a search and couldn't find that exact article but this one talks about it too. Marital home woes

In my case if this sorry sitch ever does end in a D I am making plans on how I will keep the place, but it was mine pre H too.

kissak, ask your H to keep to the agreement for visiting with the kids. Boundaries. Reread Love Must Be Tough. Be strong.

I case that article gets edited out here is a sample -
For some couples the place they called home can be emblematic of the marriage, and here a note of caution is in order. A home is a state of mind and a habit of the heart; a house is a building on a piece of land. The word home is warm and fuzzy; house is cold and angular. No one can every sell or buy a home because it must be made by the people who live there and who love and nurture each other. In the emotional tsunami of divorce, couples often act out melodramas of vindication that makes the house the symbol of the home, which now moves into the realm of a bittersweet memory of what was but is no more and will not be again. The decision to keep a home requires thinking long term and short term. Courts are very inclined to award the house to the wife so that school-age children experience the less disruption by the breakup, particularly in states where judges have discretion in the equitable distribution of property. This means that the equitable distribution of property may result in the marital home going to a mother even when that division of property is not exactly equal in dollar value with property awarded to the father. In a divorce, the person awarded the marital home should be certain that he or she can afford to keep it, particularly now when the housing market is in the doldrums (and unlikely to improve dramatically for some time). Many times, women who keep the marital home find themselves house-poor.