Husband's Missed Oppotunity #2

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Okay, I'm back...

So, he said he doesn't care as long as it doesn't come between K and I. I asked him what does that mean? He replies, "think about it. You're a UCLA graduate. Depression leads to abandonment." What? I felt like saying..."oh, really? Is that why you abandoned your family? Because you're depressed?" But, I didn't. However, I did say that he could benefit from some medication, sometimes. So, he starts eluding to the fact that because I'm taking AD's, I may not be able to take care of K well enough. Now, I'm pissed. But, I remain calm. I just said "I did this FOR K. So I could take care of her better."

What an A-hole. He thinks it's something he can use in court against me. I asked him why he felt the need to always act so mean towards me and find reasons to be mad at me. His reply was that I say stupid sh!t. I graduated from UCLA and I still don't use my brain. He points this out a lot now (about being a UCLA graduate- was never an issue or a weapon until the last 6 months - makes me wonder where it's coming from or why). So, I said "you know, H, I'm sorry you feel the need to try and put me down to make yourself feel better. And, it might hurt my feelings if I even remotely thought I might be stupid. But, since I know I'm not, fire away if it makes you feel good". Then I CHOSE to be happy and change the topic. I told him to drive safely and let him kiss his daughter and he drove off.

I was reminded last night of how mean he can be and for no reason. It does not matter if I am nice to him or not, he is going to be mean if he wants to. And, he wants to often. I know this is usually how he acts when he has to give me money. Just wait until I tell him that I'll be garnishing his wages because I can't trust him to give me the CS. Then he'll have a new reason to be extra mean. Divorce sucks!!! The sad thing is he won't even acknowledge that HE did this to HIMSELF.