I think your wife is going to be very surprised by your resolve. Taking a "tough stance" can be especially effective when it represents a "180" for the betrayed spouse -- when their prior style was too pleasing/rescuing/accommodating. It's not recommended when your prior behavior was legitimately too controlling (I say "legitimately" because 90% of cheating spouses will accuse their betrayed spouse of being "controlling," even when there's been ZERO prior marital complaints of this. It's just that they don't like being told that they can't have an affair!).
If it makes you feel any better, your wife's words and behavior here are entirely SCRIPT:
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When I confronted her in mid-July, she vehemently denied screwing around and then turned the tables, becoming the injured party and declaring that my snooping was the last straw and we are getting divorced.
Just read these boards, or those over at Marriage Builders, and you'll see those exact same words, hundreds of times!
You don't need to waste your money on a PI. Just tell her "I know what you're doing, and I have evidence of it," and then refuse to tell her what your evidence is. You'll have the really cool benefit of "she doesn't know what you DON'T know" going for you. It works very well.
