The more you try to pull him in the more he is going to push you away. If he hears you talking "nicer" to him it relieves his guilt makes him think you are accepting this and will go away easily.
He needs a true taste of what life will be like without you! What is the schedule for the kids? Are they going to stay with him? This needs to be treated like it would be if you were divorced - show him how that will be.
You need to figure out what attracted him to you from the beginning - STOP Pursuing! It will just push him away, trust me I did it all wrong at first too...
Take baby steps - give yourself and hour of not thinking of him or the sitch and keep increasing this time each day. Focus on your job or the kids...I know it's hard but you will drive yourself crazy trying to anlayze too much. Read other's stories learn from them- it is SO common out here that the more YOU pull away from him the sooner he may come looking for you - this needs to be on your terms. You don't have control right now - you are letting him call the shots in your life and this is so hard to live with. Take back the control! Detach!
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Me41 H44 * M16 yrs * D13 S10 8/06 H wants a D * 1/07 OW Truth 2/07 Searated * 7/07 H moved home First Thread Surviving Separation Now Piecing
