Husband's Missed Oppotunity #2

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Thanks ST - I know, I saw the post - thank you for the credit. It felt good to know that I did something well, not that long ago.

So, H comes over. He's in an okay mood - not too bad. We had a nice visit (in the beginning). He brought me supplies for K. He paid for 2 weeks of daycare and gave me some money for the bills (not as much as he promised, but it helped- more about that in a moment). He was playing with K and she was laughing - all 3 of us were laughing. It felt REALLY nice and happy.

So, he gets ready to leave and starts in on me about how he feels that he has overpaid for the bills and that he thinks I am spending the money he gives me to go out - what a crock of shite! He's making excuses. So, I said "first, please stop accusing me of misusing the money you have given me. If I give you a list of everything you have given me and what it went towards, will you promise to stop acting as though I am "stealing" money from you?" He says, "maybe, as long as it adds up to what I have written down". So, I am going to do this.

Then - here's the kicker - he says "when did you start taking zoloft?" My jaw almost hit the floor..."how do you know that?" He says that the insurance company sent information about it to him (the insurance is in his name - or was at that time). I said that my doctor said I should take it because after the baby was born I felt overwhelmed with the baby, bills, the divorce and had some signs of postpartum depressions. He asked me why I didn't tell him that I was taking it. I just said that I didn't think I needed to and (this is where I backslid) "why would I? What? So, you can be all proud of yourself for putting me into a position where I need to take an anti-depressant just so I don't cry every morning and every night?" Oooops - I recognize the guilt trip, people. It was a wrong choice to go there - got it.

He said he doesn't care, as long as it doesn't interfere with my ability to raise our daughter.

Be right back....