I also find it your STBX's actions odd, during and after the hearing.
M from Tennessee,
I think the reaction is very typical of the self centered. She wanted to let it be known she was feeling some pain or emotion. Yet, she wanted lodo to still feel a connection to her by sharing and consolation. She WANTED this scene to be etched into his memory forever. It makes it much more difficult for the normal caring person to totally detach and walk away. She is essentially saying, "I am feeling all of these things. Yet, YOU can still walk away?" This is clearly more cake eating in this guy's eyes.......
