I'm sure you've heard this before, and you'll definitely hear it again:
Believe none of what they say and only half of what they do.
Chant it with me, now.
I see a lot of positives. Whether he wants to admit it or not, he's thinking about things. He's noticing changes. He's still got a lot of work on himself to do, but he's possibly starting down that road. It takes a helluva lot longer than any of us think it should, I suspect. So, be as patient as you can and look at all those positives.
