Sandy,

Do NOT answer his text messages/e-mails, nor return his phone calls (let them go to voice mail) unless they are about the kids.

This is a good place to start. He's wanting to "normalize" things with you, so that HE can sleep tonite. So he can know you're "ok". He doesn't deserve that. His "I"m sorry's" are NOT for you, they are for HIM.

Don't enable his comfort.

Puppy