Oh, CW, I'm sooo sorry your D hurts so much. I know 13 is such a hard, hard age anyway!!! Keep being supportive of her and keep telling her that you love her and her dad but you have to look out for you too. You can use this opportunity to show her how strong women overcome adversity!!!
I think you are detaching from your H...good job on that! If you have any tips to share, please do...I'm doing horribly in that department. Be careful about the drunk calls...maybe next time leave the phone in the car or something so you don't do it again. I'm going to work really hard at avoiding convos. that aren't pleasant...like when my H starts in about the way I do something at the house that he doesn't like. Next time I'm going to say, "Okay. Well, I appreciate your opinion. I need to go now." That way I won't be tempted to get into an argument over something that really doesn't matter.
Have a great day!!!
Me 39 H 36 S 7 S 4 T 15 M 12 H out 8/1/08 OW confirmed 8/6/08 D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!