And you know the biggest thing I get from the above is that he shows massive concern for you and you are doing everything right to not change this into guilt. I think you have highlighted the exact things that you can help him with, the rest is for him to work through. What you are doing at the moment is WORKING and that is great.
Try and focus on those positives and I really think you should feel a little bit encouraged at the moment (honestly). You also have a goal of getting through today till you get to your call with Jody. In my view, do not contact your h today for your own sake and work on building up your strength to get through this day. And make sure you eat something to feed your brain and keep your strength up.
Sending warm, fuzzy vibes over to Poland (as I sit in my office freezing! )
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