True life is lived when tiny changes occur

[JCJ]

(((T)))

I am so thrilled that this happened. Everything just seemed so natural and I truly believe that is a great start for something new, whatever that may be, for you and he. He is calling back about your new cello so I think this is your chance to talk and in return do tones of listening to his response and even ask for his opinion as he did if he doesn't volunteer one. Remember respect, respect, respect.

I was just wondering about the conversation with him about his playing opportunity. Were you mirroring his concerns or do you hold those concerns for him?

He said, "I'd just like to talk through this because I really don't know what I should do," and I said, Go ahead!!

I love that you just listened.

At several points in the conversation he asked, "do you have any more thoughts?" I was really careful to try to listen listen listen and not interrupt.

I love that he asked you BECAUSE he knew you were listening. If you voluteered your thoughts he wouldn't have thought 'hmmm I wonder what T is thinking, maybe she would have a good perspective on this'. (anyway that is what I imagine )

I told him I had a tutoring student coming over in a few minutes and asked him if I should call back when I was finished (since the conversation was mostly him talking, I wanted to be clear I was open to more of that). He said tomorrow would be better and that he "really wanted to hear about my search for a new cello."

Excellent GALing here, I loved that you had to go and showed boundaries. Excellent that you left him wanting more...

I told him I would love to get his opinion because I was sort of confused, and then we talked about times that he would be available tomorrow

I love that you did this because it reflects this

He thanked me for being a sounding board

Isn't that what couples do? H and I certainly used to use each other as a sounding board all the time.

So... what's next, lovely friends??

Hmmm... my feeling is go with the flow on this one (argh, I had something more to say and I just got interupted and if I think of it later I will post).

If I weren't at work I would be doing a little Chandler-esque (from Friends) victory dance for you Maybe I should just do that anyway hee hee.