Ok, I'm going to be frank because I really want you to not make the mistakes I did. I'm not going to analyse the content of the call, Jody is probably the best person for that.
His actions don't make logical sense, no WAS's do, so don't waste your energy trying to make sense of them. You have to develop a hard hide (sp?), take it on the chin and concentrate on actions. Think about how are YOU going to react to this? Hopelessness is not helpful to your PMA.
1. List the positives from the call.
2. Next to it list the actions that brought these about.
3. Tell me, from what has worked so far, how YOU are going to handle this situation. In practical terms and also in your head.
You have to accept there are some things you can do nothing about at the moment and there are some things you can. This is going to take time and you may have to play around with your strategy. If you feel like sharing the answers to the above here I'd love to hear them.
I hope I am not being too harsh bit sometimes the whys and wherefores are not entirely helpful, not so say don't post what you are feeling because I know how helpful that can be and I TOTALLY understand those feelings but realise that, although very powerful, they are just feelings.
Most of all ITH, your marriage is worth this and the man you love is worth this. Realise that you are learning so much and that you will come out a stronger person. We don't ask for change but sometimes change is necessary to make us the person we are meant to be.
