NikB #29 (keepin' up the piecing!)

[NikB]

Babygirl
Aw thanks! I think that might be the first time my dog's been called "beautiful" . Goofy, adorable, funniest looking dog EVER, yes... beautiful? Not so much! Although I agree. When we first found her I thought I was nuts for wanting to keep her but I love the heck out of her now. Heck yeah easier to figure out than men!! Food, love, snuggly bed, dog is happy. You'd think that's all H needed too eh.

BH
Thanks so much!! Yes, I'm pretty excited about it. My birthday is Monday 9/22. ugh, a BD on a Monday? So not fair.. haha. It is SO sweet that he's doing so much.

ST
You are SO right about the difference in behavior. Heck just as I'm sitting here typing this... his phone is 3 feet away from me on the table (and this is pretty common). I NEVER saw his phone "unattended" during that whole EA time. I hate that I get suspicious sometimes.

I've gotten MUCH better about not asking the "Is that REALLY where you're going/what you're doing?" question, but I need to drop it entirely. I'm doing better, I have been tempted a few times but not asked. I think part of the problem is he DID lie to me about where he was going a couple of times - knowing that I wouldn't be too happy about it - but it was not AT ALL an EA. One was a "bachelor party planning meeting" for example. I actually AM OK with it but I understand why he was worried I wouldn't be... but it upset me that he lied about it. Well didn't even lie, really, but vaguely said "I'm going to meet 'some friends'" which used to be code for "going to OW's house." So... like I said, getting better but it's taking me some time. Thanks for the reminder. I need to just CHOOSE to TRUST.

Sonoma... ahh yeah, I wish, but even with the people I met there's just nooo way. I suppose I could call the guy and ask to stay at his house but that might be a bit freaky. The hotels are literally booked solid at this point (the last one managed to book up even at $300/night) soo.. not too likely. It's only 90 min. away though so that's OK, we'll get up early and make a fun day of it!

About that letter to my Mom.. I know that he mailed it, and I know that she got it. She won't say anything about it AT ALL. I don't even know if she read it or just tossed it. Probably better for me not to be in the middle of it but I do kinda hope she read it and it healed at least SOME of her ongoing lingering hurt. I agree it was totally awesome for him to do that.

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No real "update" tonight just wanted to reply!!

For anyone I normally post to but haven't kept up - I'm sorry! I have been trying to cut back on my "DB boards" time as I think I was spending TOO much time here. I see sooo much pain and hurt here and I want to be there for everyone.. and it just isn't possible. I will catch up as I can with those I've posted to lately, though.

Hugs to everyone and hope you're having a good week!!