H introduced new R stuff again today. Said he and I need to deal with the stuff between us that happened etc. I said we had time because of other circumstances, and that these talks have to be at his pace to which he said: "We're taking things slower than I'd actually like. " That actually surprised me. I think if he raises anymore R stuff, I'm going to suggest that when HE's ready... he pick a time that we start those talks... but also ask what he hopes to accomplish with these talks. MC is something I'm going to have to introduce slowly. He'll go eventually I believe,... but it's going to have to be something that is based more on preventative medicine, than rehashing the past.
Since he's is ready to talk about things... admittedly I'm afraid of certain aspects, like: How on EARTH do I get it into his head that I DIDN'T have an affair? I know it's going to come up. My T session is tomorrow, so I'll be asking that.
He slept over last night, and he tossed and turned a bit. He felt bad that we didn't ML,... but he's stressed out because of the stuff with the OW... and I had to remind him that cuddling and touch is as equally important as sex. He hugged me so tight at one point last night, I had to tap him to let me turn my head away from his chest, so I could breathe
He's headed back here tonight...
Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
