New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[Trying2live]

Twin Hope I agree with hope3343. Now that exposure has taken place this is a good thing. The more actually the better. What happens with these betraying spouses is they live in a fantasy land. My H even told me during the 2 weeks that he had come home that, you just think it will all work out, your in a fantasy. So fantasy environment, and that promotes and encourages the affair. That's why exposure stops that and snaps them into reality. All women are universally the same and have somewhat the same needs, and he's about to find that out. May take a bit, but who cares.

Soooo, super important for you to GAL. I agree. Re-read it. When they see us moving on, getting strong, and we don't stop we keep living, they tend to get nervous. I would definitely step back, GAL and do something unexpected! You're going to feel better and he's going to notice it. We all have to remember that it wasn't sadness that got our spouses to notice us. It was our confidence and strength that attracted them to us. And....every time they see the OW/OM they see someone who is happy and strong. That's what we are competing with. So TwinHope super important. So now H needs to see that the old TwinHope is a thing of the past and this is the new and improved TwinHope. And also I think the book has some investigative work that we are supposed to do(I hate this part) is find out what our spouses see in the OW/OM and if we were lacking in this area.
I love what Marisol says, and we need to say it everyday. I'm going to make it and this too shall pass. Be strong as best you can. Strength and confidence are attractive.