waw advice needed I am desperate,!!!

[cotoffgard]

Not sure if you read "Divorce Remedy" or "Divorce Busting" yet, so forgive me if I'm saying things you already know.

"...should I just not call or text I suspect I will be served papers sometime this week..."

If I were you, I'd force myself to stop pursuing or engage in actions that would appear to her like you're pursuing, which includes calling, texting, etc. You'll just make her run that much faster. Let her come to you.

Second, I would start acting "as if" you're OK with the situation, that you've come to terms with the final outcome and are at peace with it (even though on the inside you're a boiling mess). Exude a positive mental attitude...smile. However, don't overdo it or else you'll be transparent. Basically you're going to behave in a manner she would not have expected or predicted. Now, you'll see her every work day, so you're going to have to dig down deep to sustain this "as if'ing", which leads me to my next point.

You need to "get a life". For me, it was going out with a new group of people, new hobby, and individual counseling/therapy. You can't "as if" forever unless you fill that void with genuine change and happiness. To me, GAL'ing is one of the most important things to do when DB'ing. The only person you can change and control is you...not your W...not the impending divorce filing...only you.

I could go on and on, but I think this will get you started on a good emergency foundation until you've read Michele's DR and DB (if you haven't already done so).

You have an amazing opportunity to apply DR/DB techniques since you see your WAW every weekday. It might not last that long as there's a reasonable possibility she'll quit her job around the time you get served (if ever). The guilt and anger will be too much to bare if you're there constantly reminding her of all the pain and frustration she experienced in the M.