New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[twinhope]

Hello Everyone! Last night was a complete disaster! My MIL knows about the OW and has asked me what I know of her and I told her all I know is her myspace page. She wanted to look at it and was very disgusted! This happened 2wks ago. Well MIL called H last night and reamed him out about this slut of a 21yr old that he is leaving his W for. Obviously this did not go very well. Of course everything is my fault so I get the phone call. He yelled and screamed at me, I stayed calm and he called me names and it hurt but I knew he was just upset. He hung up on me. I tried calling him back once and then sent a text to call back and talk not yell about this. He called about 20 minutes later. To sum up the conversation, I got him to admit that he is "seeing" the OW and I called him out on everything she had posted on her myspace page. Not very smart of her but that is a 21yr old for you. He was saying I was lying and that her page was set to private. I read page to page and he just sat there and tried to deny but knew it was true so his silence spoke volumes. A R talk started and I got to get off my chest everything that I did that brought us to today. I accepted responsibility and was clear that this was my part and that he had his faults too. He barked at me a few times but all in all he listened and was glad that I finally realize what drove him to the OW's arms (yuck). He said to me that when he left what did I expect him to do while I was figuring out my life he had to move on with his! 14 yrs I gave him and he couldn't wait 4mos. What in the world. Anyhow I told him that I wanted this M to work but I want him to be happy and if she is the love of his life then I didn't pay attention to him and I was sorry and pretty much I was letting him go. I asked him if he missed me and he said YES very much. I asked what he missed if it was just friends or was it being together making love, cuddling, kissing. He said that he missed all of it but the door is closed and he has moved on and he is happy. I told him that is what I want for him. He seemed surprised and very quiet not much talking at all but I was happy he listened. Usually and R talk that comes up he bails ASAP! He thanked me for realizing and said he was sorry and I said I was sorry too! He said that he will talk to me tomorrow. I felt a big rock lifted off my chest in that it is finally all out in the open. He knows I know about the OW so I wonder if guilt is setting in and if the fact it is not a secret makes it not fun anymore. I guess only time will tell. My Dad called me and said that H left a message today to him saying he was sorry to hear about my uncle and that he really misses my parents. What is wrong with him! I just don't get it. I know we have to ignore everything they say and less that 1/2 of what they do but as you all know this is hard. When we don't see any improvement and we want this to work more than anything. I hope you are all doing well. I head up to PA today for the funeral. I will check in and post on each of our threads!