What do I do now?

[lost3031]

What is it that you would have to change, that he does not? Can you tell me more?

I would have to give up my job, since OM works for the same organization and lives in the same town where my job is (which is over 50 miles away from where H lives and where I would be moving back to). Theoretically, I don't have to see OM because we don't work in the same building, but H would always be wondering if I was seeing him and honestly, it would always be a temptation for me. Also, I would have to give up my current residence (which wouldn't be the end of the world), the new friends I've made since moving to the new town (since I wouldn't be able to frequently visit this town because of OM), and all the new activities that I've taken up since moving here because they're not available where H lives. H wouldn't have to give up anything, quite frankly.

It's not that I don't think H is worth giving up all this... it's just that I feel like I'm finally finding myself and discovering all these new things that I like doing, fill my time, and make me feel good about doing. For instance, I've taken up tennis, joined a gym, and recently taken up rock climbing. All of which I enjoy immensely but H lives in a rural area where none of this is available.

H worries that asking me to give up all this will later lead me to resent him for having to give it all up, and I honestly worry about the same thing...