Another one bites the dust

[Lissie]

I am getting that everyone else here believes that I need to just let him go so that I no longer focus on that slim possibility of might be. I am wasting energy on it. Again, because of this fear right now, I truly feel that if I do that then it will definately be over.

Ok I think it is a bit clearer to me now. Sigh, it take some time for me

I read the above, and then saw this.

Married - 1992
ILYNILWY - August 2007
Moved Out - March 2008
OW Revieled - May 28, 2008
Filed for D - July 2, 2008

This is all pretty darn new. I understand why it is so difficult hearing the Letting go and Letting God stuff.

You are not ready for it. I always think that by the time people get to Surviving they have been on the MLC board for 2 years and are done standing.

You are standing for your marriage still, and that is ok. I think all of us here stood for a long time, and when it was the RIGHT time for us to stop standing for our marriages, we came here.

You are not there yet, I think, and that is ok.
Standing is very personal, I know someone that is standing for over 7 years. Is it wrong, or unhealthy? It is not my place to say, I feel. Eveyone knows how much they can "stand"

I stood for my marriage at the same time as a few peeps. BND, Yellow Rose, Jack Three beans. They are all back with their spouses, and working on their M's. They all have one thing in common.

They did not lose themselves on the journey of standing. They stood (still stand) for themselves first and for most.

It is a long hard journey filedl with so many unexpected gifts.

This is all very new for you. You maybe want to look around the forums and see which forum fits best for you, just in case.

This one fits best for me NOW. I needed the MLC forum for the other phases of my journey.

You will know which is best for you.

HUGS