Hi ITH - I personally think you need to let him figure this out on his own. Your right he can't have the best of both worlds, why should you be so stressed out trying to accomodate him? Plus I think it would be a 180 for you to back off and let him show his "non-dependent" side since that is what he is so scared of. Listen, I know, one of my problems too!! LoL. A few weeks ago H texted me asking to borrow some $, it was the hardest thing in the world for me to say no ( I am completly broke right now) even though I didn't have the money I was trying to figure ways to get if for him then I realized that this was ALWAYS the case before. I would always bend over backwards to get him what he needed whether I had it or not. If he wants to be on his own then he needs to realize what it is really like. Plus if he learns these things while he is "alone" then I feel when we do get back together it will make the marriage stronger because he won't have to always rely on me and I won't be "controlling" anymore. And another added bonus hopefully they will realize al the crap we did do for them once they have to do it for themselves!!!! Win Win
P.S. I love the way you are thinking of moving back as your ninja moves..lol. I can imagine you like sneaking in and backflipping into the house like "Ta Da I'm here!!!"
