Good morning, Dan! I hope you got some rest!!!! That's been one of the hardest things for me...I never sleep anymore!

At any rate, I too like the idea of writing down what you want to say, and what you want to accomplish from the confrontation.

I also feel the most anger at the lies. In fact, I think I've done fairly well letting that go, and then just yesterday I was driving down the road and I remembered this one time recently that H did something that I questioned, and he assured me I had no reason to worry about it. Wow! Everytime one of the specific instances hits me, it makes me furious all over again.

But, remember that the forgiveness of your W is for you, not for her. If you can forgive her, you can heal from what she's done. If you can't forgive her, that bitterness will cloud your judgement and enter your other relationships (including those with your children).

Hang in there! You'll come out okay in the end, whatever you decide is right for you and your family.

I'll check in on you tonight!

Amy

Me 39 H 36
S 7 S 4
T 15 M 12
H out 8/1/08
OW confirmed 8/6/08
D final on 6/12/09...I'm doing good!