your H sounds like my xH. Your friends like mine. I had actually asked them not to contact him at all in the beginning to avoid him feeling pressured. When I convinced him I was NOT pushing anymore I allowed who ever wanted to talk to him. Looking back now, I was trying to control them as well... A year later my xH still doesnt tell people who dont know, we are separated and divorcing (hopefully). But my xH wasnt adamant about the divorce. He was all "we will see, time will tell, I dont know what to do, there is no one else...". They come in all shapes and sizes, dont they?
I dont have much advice to give. Just dont expect him to be "reasonable with the process". He will not be. You have a lot more crazy stuff to see. And although I wish in your case is different, in mine, none of the crazy stuff really meant anything.
Drop the rope, completely. Honestly. Just live your life. Love K
