LL, seems to me he's SCREAMING I love you and I'm sorry...only in his OWN language!!!
Hon, I think he's smelling the coffee already.
I KNOW you need closure on the entire A issue and what it's done to you, LL. I do too, but CJ has made more steps in that direction than your H has.
It's just occurred to me that part of why your H may NOT be "trying as hard" is that really DIDN'T get physical with OW and so from his (genetically) male-biased view...it wasn't "that much" of a betrayal!!!
Now we all know that's nonsense, but it would explain some of his behaviours, no?
SOOO, how have you "been" around him today? Is it his own guilt over the argument or him sensing changes in you that is spurring this "acts of service/words of affirmation" spurt?
Gotta get outside before the bb lures me in for the rest of the night.
